The grass is always greener on the other side, someone elses sugar is always sweeter, and inevitably, despite mulling over the menu at your favorite restaurant for 15 minutes to ensure you select the perfect meal, you will always want what the person across from you ordered instead.
We are a society based on discontent. We are bred to be constant consumers in order to maintain our excessive economy, and are therefore trained to never be satisfied with what we have.
The Iphone 5 comes out in a week and a half. The asking price is exorbitantly high for the relatively minor changes from the Iphone 4, yet I have friends who are lining up to purchase the upgrade, despite only buying the previous model weeks earlier.
It’s not their fault. We were programmed by the media and advertisements to always want more… to always need more. Why else would we have credit cards? They afford us the ability to consume with funds we do not actually possess. “Credit” was generated as a way to force skeptics to be on board with over-consumption. Adults are, for the most part, incapable of existing in today’s society without some form of credit. As a student teetering close to the edge of adulthood, I have discovered that the top 3 ways to earn credit are as follows:
1. Get a Credit Card (and use it)
2. Take out a Loan
3. Finance a Car or an Apartment
Sounds like a great way to propel youths into the real world: start them off with thousands of dollars in debt and make them believe that it’s normal.
So, why does all of this matter to me? It is my belief that this constant dissatisfaction with everything that we possess inevitably trickles into the way we view our relationships.
It doesn’t matter how happy you are with your significant other. The seed of discontent which is planted within us at a very early age almost always fosters what I like to call “wandering eye” syndrome.
This is not the case for everyone, of course, there are a lot of people that learn to be content in their monogamous relationships. The majority, however, either maintain relationships and cheat because they’re curious about “someone elses sugar” but are too afraid to be alone, or carry on the single life until they are so emotionally and sexually exhausted that they fall into the next relationship that comes along, even if it’s not a good one.
Personally, I wouldn’t want either of those two options to be m, but I recognize the pull that society has over me. Always wondering if you could get someone cuter, with more status, with a better body, who can sing better, who can dance better, with more money, whose funnier… the possibilities are endless.
How do you learn to be content when you have a good man or a good woman? What makes us unable to see them for what they are and love them for it?
I guess the best advice that I can give is this:
If you’re one of those people that thinks the grass is always greener on the other side, why don’t you try watering what you already have and see how that works out first.