This sucks, plain and simple. In my experience, people are always trying to portray rejection as nothing more than a learning experience, but it is really so much more than that.
There is a chance that it could just be a learning experience, but the truth of the matter is that no one really tries to actually learn something from it.
Aside from persistent people who can’t/won’t take no for an answer, rejection is such a big deal for two reasons.
#1. People fail to communicate properly, whether it’s out of fear, or an inability to put their thoughts into words. If people never led each other on or flirted inappropriately when they really had no interest in the other person, rejection wouldn’t happen to the smart ones. They wouldn’t wonder if you liked them like that, because it would be obvious you didn’t, and then they would never attempt to put themselves out there, unless they are a glutton for punishment.
#2. People are cruel. For every girl or guy who gets approached by a less attractive member of the opposite sex, shuts them down rudely in front of your friends, and then laughs about it while they are walking away… shame on you. You lose nothing by letting someone down gently.
Rejection is a part of life, whether we like it or not. The best we can do is understand that we are all living in this world together, so why not try and make it easy on each other? There is no need for cruelty, and there is no need for the brief moment of satisfaction you get from flirting with a person you know won’t reject you, all the while knowing that you’re hurting them.
I like this picture… it’s a great perspective to have on all types of rejection: love, work, school, anything.
If you know that you are worthy, don’t let someone elses rejection of you make you feel any differently.