One of my friends asked me if I’d ever played the part of home-wrecker in my life and, to be honest, I was more than a little annoyed as I responded with a resounding “Of course not!” He shrugged off my annoyance and said “It’s common, girls and guys always want someone taken for some odd reason.”
That really made me think. To me, it seems inconceivable to want to be a home-wrecker, unless you are one of those people who truly has no interest in long-term relationships.
Here’s my issue: it’s hard enough trying to find someone to love you who is single, unattached, and normal. That alone is stressful. Let’s ignore the fact that you would be turning him into a cheater, but why would you want to add another girl into the mix?
Already, 90% of your time is taken up by wondering what he thinks about you, if you did something wrong, where his head is at, how does he view you long-term, and other equally pointless worries. If you’re trying to go for a guy who already has a girl, that is the equivalent of setting yourself up for failure.
If you’re one of those girls who likes being a home-wrecker because you like the idea of being “so fine” that no guy can resist you, I honestly feel sorry for you. All that means is that you’re too scared to commit yourself to one man in case you get hurt, and that your self-esteem is psychologically damaged to the point where you need constant verification of your worth by proving you can use your feminine wiles to be better than his other girl.
Personally, I wouldn’t want someone who was taken. If he was uninterested enough in his current relationship to be distracted by me in the first place, then either he doesn’t know when something is over (so he’s either stupid or a coward) or he’s a cheater-in-training (so why would I give him the opportunity to make me the one he finally cheats on?).
I suppose the takeaway is this:
Thank you home-wreckers (aka dysfunctional females) for stealing men when you were young so that you could feel good about yourselves for a brief moment, and then complaining that there aren’t any good ones out there when you are ready to settle down.
You wrecked them all.